Being constantly consumed by an immense schedule to keep up with our work, our family and friends, as well as hobbies and the daily chores we all face - the save haven of sweet free time is rigorously being cut. But why would you cut the one thing that is the most precious to you?
In a society that pushes you to live life to its fullest, one quickly gets caught in a vicious cycle of event /vacation hopping as well as an typical "YOLO"-attitude (You Only Live Once)...
It is not dependent on your personality as an introvert or extrovert, moreover it is about us as human beings. Yes, society is important but to really reflect and create yourself as a concept, you have to have some time alone. Agreed, modern technology does everything to keep you from having alone time, but I find it very important to have at least some moments of solitude during the week, that give me the space to breath and recuperate before getting back in.
So let me give you some tipps on how to get some fresh headspace:
1) Put it in your calendar
Nowadays everything that is not in my mobile calendar on my phone, didn't happen. My capacity to remember important events is not as compromised as it sounds but still, I value the modern possibilities of time tracking.
Another factor of this is that having this constant reminder on your phone it somehow gets real and kinda pressures you into doing it, because you have to look at it and if you didn't do it, you will feel badly. So this is a good mechanic to use for external pressure.
2) Give it priority
When you have something planned for yourself, say "No!" to anything else that might come up in the same time span. It doesn't matter if it's private or work related. Of course, it might not feel right every time and sometimes it's crucial to re-schedule but the importance of this exercise is to value your own time more than anything else.
This is probably the hardest thing to do, because we tend to over-evaluate opportunity costs and go with something that does not circle around ourselves. But still, it's important to take a break and be mindful.
3) Find a balance
As with everything the right balance is key. If you are a person that does not require that much personal time, if you are an extrovert and live off other people's energy (in a positive way) that is brilliant. If you are more introverted, like I'm for example, I really enjoy a day off for myself and without distraction because I find the energy and creativity in myself. As esoteric as this might sound, it's true. In the end though, I don't think that this is the important factor.
4) Reflect on your choices
The last thing I'd like to add in this short post is that constant reflection of your actions and decisions help you create a picture of yourself. You keep yourself open to learning and you are better able to prioritise. This will lead to better personal and relationship pay-offs.
Especially when it comes to relationships, I reflect a lot. People who are very dear to me get more attention, even if I don't see them on a regular basis. Modern technology makes it easy to communicate and keep up. Don't neglect old friendships, in my opinion it is better to have relationships that endure decades than just months or even weeks. What do you think?
What is your approach, do you find time for yourself with meditation, do you do stuff alone rather than with people? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section below.
Thanks for reading!