The most common advice you will hear is to do more sports. Well, yes but what do you do if you are not that into sports and don't want to start something? It was me in early 2012. I was young, and I was on my semester abroad, and I had to do something.
You might know the feeling that when you enter a room and you get a sense of it or you really know when your best friend is sad although she might not be showing it. That is your EQ telling you something is wrong with how things seem to be and how you percieve them. This is important, because it gives you context and can serve as a conversation starter.
That is the reason why I want to share some examples on how listening can benefit your daily life on this Monday.
It is a simple framing method, but one that is very powerful: "Don't work for the weekend". It means that I often encounter the mindset of: Thank God, it's finally Friday! Off to the weekend!
Of course, I'm excited too, don't get me wrong, but on a Sunday evening I think: What a great weekend, but finally I can work again tomorrow! I know, it sounds odd, especially for people who live the above. But stay with me for a moment.
Being constantly consumed by an immense schedule to keep up with our work, our family and friends, as well as hobbies and the daily chores we all face - the save haven of sweet free time is rigorously being cut. But why would you cut the one thing that is the most precious to you?
In a society that pushes you to live life to its fullest, one quickly gets caught in a vicious cycle of event /vacation hopping as well as an typical "YOLO"-attitude (You Only Live Once)...
It doesn't matter if we are talking about business development, learning new skills or simply training your body or mind. Everything takes time and success is not achieved over night, even though mass media would like us to believe that.
Trust me, I love to say that everything is possible and encourage myself and others to try out everything and not to be afraid of consequences, the future or anything else.
It always comes down to what you want out of it. Becoming a best-selling author without ever writing a book is very(!) hard.
So, why was meditation even on the list for 2016? Well, good question. I've always been a fan of thinking, creativity and stoisism. So the art of meditating, becoming one with the mind, being calm with a razor sharp focus is a very nice aspiration for me. As a natural introvert I also enjoy activities that does not include a social paradigm, something that can be done anywhere, anytime without anyone else. So, meditation is basically the perfect set up.
When you think about an artist, what comes to mind? Someone looking like Dalí, entering a complete empty and white room with just a brush and some colors on the floor? Do you think of a monk who enters a room full of motivational posters or do you think about someone like Steve Jobs?
People experience creativity differently, but I think the one thing that uniquely combines all of those creative types is how theyhandle restrictions.
Learning something new and trying to teach it yourself takes time and effort, it's a marathon and not a sprint. Usually I set a date of 10 days in a row to test my determination and applicability in my daily routines. If something does not fit in or simply lost my interest in that period, I won't continue. If I can keep it, I'll integrate it. Don't get me wrong, when you want something badly but stop after three days, that doesn't mean you should give up, but sometimes there are things that you'd like to accomplish but somehow it just won't land or you are just not ready for it. So determination in itself is the test.
The one fact that does have an impact on yourself and on your social circle, is that people will definitely sympathise with you, if you are vulnerable. Appearing to be Superman only brings you this far. By showing your human site, you can win massively and have more impact on your surroundings. One of the things I value most is honesty. By being honest you build trust and relationships. Being grateful for that and communicating your feelings when someone disappoints you or vice versa, only strengthens the bond - otherwise the relationship might not be as strong as you thought it was.
In December I wrote about my opinion on new year's resolutions and I stand by it. That also means, that to trigger action, you need motivation and a goal. Your set goals shouldn't be all about "this year I will be..." or "in the next 12 months....". It's important to have smart successes on the way, so think about goals within closer range "by the end of January I want to have done...", "in my first week of work in 2016 I want to accomplish...". Setting short term goals will keep you motivated and give you a chance of early milestones that will help setting you on the right track for 2016.
So first off, I personally like making New Year's resolutions (yes, plural) but over the years I realized that I never really take off with my plans. So every year started with false promises and ended somehow in oblivion. That doesn't necessarily means I'm a bad person, it just means that this concept just didn't work for me, so I opted for a different approach.
I was always more intersted in the future than in the past. Although history lessons can give us some valuable advice on how things worked out, but all those events are fixed in time and will probably never happen again, at least that's not likely.
With that in mind, what would you say is your personal pitch as a human, an employee or a friend? Does you list only contain things from the past or do you value your aspirations in the future as well or even more?
It doesn't matter if you're an introvert or an extrovert, stage fright is a common feeling among all individuals once you have to be in front of an audience, talking, presenting or acting. But there are instances where you have to be in the spotlight or even want to be - to overcome stage fright and deliver a smooth presentation here are some tips that helped me over the years.
Let me start with this - I'am not a morning person. I've never been one and I obviously never will be, but to "abolish the snooze function" was the best decision I made for starting my day, for the past years.
For all the "non-snoozers" out there and "morning people" let me tell you, you've missed out on a great experience! Waking up in bed and just continue a disruptive half-sleep cycle is brilliant - you can enjoy the warmth of your bed way longer in a semi-conscious state and get the feeling of having more sleep before waking up. Since this strechtes from 20 - 90 minutes, depends on each individual case, the experience can also be quite exhausting.
Just take a minute for yourself here and think about the most influential people in your life. People like your parents, friends, teachers come to mind, they all affect your life and probably taught you a thing or two. You naturally aspire to be like them, you count on their advice and you would follow them to the end of the world (a bit romantic, I know).