In modern terms I think that it comes down to preparation and observation. Everything comes down to filters. Did you ever notice that after you bought something new, a red car or a white phone, suddenly you see so much more people driving red cars or using white phones? You ask yourself, how is this possible? Well, your brain has a new filter and now you are primed on those things, it pretty amazing.
You might know the feeling that when you enter a room and you get a sense of it or you really know when your best friend is sad although she might not be showing it. That is your EQ telling you something is wrong with how things seem to be and how you percieve them. This is important, because it gives you context and can serve as a conversation starter.
That is the reason why I want to share some examples on how listening can benefit your daily life on this Monday.
Well, however it might be, the one thing that came to mind this week was that sometimes I won't do something unless the time is right. Go for a walk, yes but it is cold, maybe it will be warmer later on? I should do the laundry, but I wanted to go shopping, maybe do laundry later? I really gotta push this project forward, but there are 20 new emails I have to tend to...
Let me give you a little inspiration for the week to come.
I've been talking a lot about actively changing your lifestyle, trying out new things and being more open to change. I have to admit, that it took some convincing to finally get myself to this point.
I've always been an autodidact and while I learned a big deal about my craft during my studies, I've been learning a lot on the side as well. The most impact on my personal development was made by listening to others who are older, more experienced and who shared their life stories with me.
Learning something new and trying to teach it yourself takes time and effort, it's a marathon and not a sprint. Usually I set a date of 10 days in a row to test my determination and applicability in my daily routines. If something does not fit in or simply lost my interest in that period, I won't continue. If I can keep it, I'll integrate it. Don't get me wrong, when you want something badly but stop after three days, that doesn't mean you should give up, but sometimes there are things that you'd like to accomplish but somehow it just won't land or you are just not ready for it. So determination in itself is the test.
In December I wrote about my opinion on new year's resolutions and I stand by it. That also means, that to trigger action, you need motivation and a goal. Your set goals shouldn't be all about "this year I will be..." or "in the next 12 months....". It's important to have smart successes on the way, so think about goals within closer range "by the end of January I want to have done...", "in my first week of work in 2016 I want to accomplish...". Setting short term goals will keep you motivated and give you a chance of early milestones that will help setting you on the right track for 2016.
So first off, I personally like making New Year's resolutions (yes, plural) but over the years I realized that I never really take off with my plans. So every year started with false promises and ended somehow in oblivion. That doesn't necessarily means I'm a bad person, it just means that this concept just didn't work for me, so I opted for a different approach.